Rela-shun-ship

Healthy discussions and assurance are basics in a relationship. There's no relationship without doubts and issues, because there is nothing called as 'Perfect'!

During an argument with your partner, about your relationship, if you are ever stuck on a discussion whether to keep up the relationship or not, and your partner gives you reasons and imposes some sort of confidence in you on how far you've come or how much you've evolved, make sure you're convinced with the answer.

There are two possible things that could happen; either you're convinced with the answer or influenced by your partner's reaction.

When you are convinced with the answer, you finally know what you want and where you want to be. But if you are influenced by your partner, you will realize the same within no time because once your partner is out of sight in the next moment, you will start having doubts yet again!

A person who has been so close to you all the while will obviously hold a greater standpoint in your subconscious mind, so you do not have to worry about being the weaker person there. You just need to know the kind of reaction it has left within you and make a judgement all by yourself in the end!

It's Okay

A beautiful Tanka by Lakshman Kumar

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Happy realisation!

From hating the infrequent cases of
'pindrop silence' in the school classroom,
to enjoying the peaceful silence in the chaotic world,
we've come a really long way.

From chanting mantras while
entering the dark bedroom,
to struggling with moments of the thoughts of a dark future,
we've been successfully overcoming all obstacles.

From enjoying parties with friends and family,
to finding comfort in solitude,
we've learnt what enjoyment is.

From ranting about 'Early to bed' advises
to struggling with insomnia,
we've realised what stress is.

From imploring for a smartphone to having moments of
"This is the root cause of all my problems" after getting one,
we've learnt to deal with all our problems.

From punishments to demotions,
we've understood what word game is.

From procrastinating homeworks,
to making deadlines,
we've learnt to manage ourselves.

From dreaming of growing up,
to wishing of going back to childhood,
we've understood what change is.

From setting ambitions to realising it never mattered,
we've learnt what life is.

And now, realising that we realise everything
without talking about the realisation,
makes us realise what deep realisation is!
Change is constant and ostensibly, constant is changing!

F,R,I,E,N,D,S

(They say having a best friend, sharing stuffs with them, makes you feel relaxed

Give me a reason to not have one, dude... FYI, friendship is not taxed!)

But I don't want anybody to share my life with,
I am a person to whom a best friend is just a myth!
I have a few friends whom I can chill with, in order to keep myself fit,
Partying with them is fun, and conversations about anything random in life, with them, are lit!

Neither I call them my best friend,
Nor do I have those forever promises with them,
But when someone asks me about my friends, they pop into my mind,
'Cos at present, to me, they are a gem.

In case of an emergency, if I ever need someone,
I know that in the near future, they would definitely come to my rescue, 
But I have that 'later future' in my mind,
I don't expect all of us to be the same, because, about departures, life gives us no clue!

I don't mean death by departure, but it could be the exit of a person from your life,
What really matters is that, at present, who's with you, and for whom you strive!

Having someone who is always there for you is impossible,
Everybody has their own life and their personal excuses.
Where would you go after they unknowingly crush your expectations,
A man becomes strong, but first, he breaks, when he loses!

Friendship is a tether between 2 ppl, but fate is a rodent that eats away the rope,
After all, the whole of the world walks on the narrowest bridge named hope!

(So, do you mean you've had a best friend at some part in your life?
By the above, it seems you've experienced the strife)

Having the best people around, I never thought, I would ever be left alone,
While one's passion drifted me apart, the other's jealousy kept us apart.
While one's too many expectations failed me, the other's attitude was sharp.
Time healed and emotions shifted, thoughts changed and now everything feels gifted!
Everything is temporary, but I don't complain 'cos the temporary is lovely right now,
Bye to the past, lots of love to the present, and to the future, I bow!

 

Bhule Dillagi!

Dil chahta hai hum saath rahe, 

Dimaag Kare, hume durr! 

Zarurat hai hume ek duje ki, 

Na jaane kiska hai kasoor? 

Dil chahta hai Milne ko, 

Dimaag mein kahi h sawaal! 

Darta hai usse puchne ko, 

Kare kalpanaon ka Malaal! 

Dil chahta hai baatein kare, 

Dimaag yaad dilaaye toote waade! 

Lafzon ka koi dosh Nahi, 

Lagi chotein aur khwaab toote! 

Dil chahta h ek tasveer, 

Dimaag ko h apna guroor, 

Kaha chupa rakha hai yaadon ko ?

Tasveeron mein hi hai suroor!

Dil chahta hai Ek din, 

Dimaag ko bhi samajh aayega, 

Agar saath likha gaya hai, 

Toh Qaayanat hume milayega!

In-COV-enience

 

No doubt that the Covid-19 lockdown restrictions are necessary. But, do you think it is practically, a good idea?

As per the restrictions, only provisional stores, and grocery shops would remain open till noon. This actually increases the crowd in every provision and grocery store. Physical distancing has to be followed by the customers, but do we, the Indian customers really follow it?

We all must have experienced this discrepancy and in fact, the shopkeepers have to constantly badger the customers to maintain physical distancing.

Having the stores opened for the whole day, on the other hand, didn’t experience the same rush. Customers could come at any time without rushing and buy products at their ease. Probably physical distancing was easier at that time.

The same applies for a bank too, where 50% employees are only available to attend the same number of customers as during the Pre-Covid period. (In this era of Internet Banking, there are customers who still prefer going to the bank even in the urban areas, and sometimes we have to go for certain things!)

In my view, the Government should probably look over these aspects before imposing such restrictions.

This day, that year

This year, Facebook notifies me we became friends that year ! 

That one text, that brought life into a cartoon who feared.

This month that year,

When we discussed our dreams that we wanted to achieve together! 

Do you remember that we dreamt of the same badge,

I realised our friendship was really strong, when the reality didn't match !

This week that year,

Against, on the stage, trying to defeat each other,

Backstage, we were best of friends, who defended one another!

This day that year,

I remember the way you unnoticeably adjusted my lose top that slipped off my shoulder,

I always felt secured around you, and I was a bit bolder!

This day, that year, I thank god we had fun together without any worries,

Cos this day, this year, I can only cherish those memories.

I remember spending time at your place,

And taking you along back home 'cos we could have never have enough time when we were together! 

Your inexpressive "Thankyou" when you received your birthday gifts always spoiled my excitement,

But your 'that year, this gift' snap leaves me so overwhelmed, friend!

Little things that year comprised of pretty surprises,

It's hard to digest that little things this year are the reasons for our fights and this crisis.

How it proved to be true that pictures are clicked for memories,

Every picture I see, I realise that left behind now, are these old stories !

This day, this year, I only think about texting you,

I fear what if I make things right and then, again lose you!

This day, this year, my photo frame remains constant, even though my friend circle grew.

I smile looking at the frame that still holds the picture of you.

This day, this year, I open my wardrobe to see that dress you gifted me,

I yearningly look towards the door, wishing to see you come to meet me!

With the same emotions, I recall every little moment,

But the present is so Ruth, that I can do nothing but vent.

In friendship, there's no sorry, no thankyou,

there is peace, 

I still wish the old you comes back, Please?

The Break - off

She is my lifeline,

If Iam with her, Iam all fine.

If I am the ship, she is my mast.

But sadly, now this is all our past!

We stayed together, fought with each other,

We bitched together, and pulled each other out of the gutter.

But it's all about the past,

And, the past was really vast!

Words couldn't justify my love for her,

I understood her, just like her mother.

We played pranks on people together,

We flocked like birds with the same feather!

But it's all about the past,

And, the past was really vast!

Being in our 'comfort zone' was all we craved,

Throwing out unwanted people, like the unwanted hair we shaved.

Attachments and emotions were not in our dictionary,

Our friendship turned out to be revolutionary!

But it's all about the past,

And, the past was really vast!

We never forced each other for calls or hangouts,

Clashes among us could easily work out.

But this wasn't the case, any more,

Her dark nature appeared from the core!

But now, it's all about the past,

because what happened today, was aghast!

Why was she being so fake, today ?

Or maybe it's just a bad day?

Oh! I wish it was just a bad day,

But, the truth was served to me on a tray!

Realisation of falsity freaked me out,

Felt like I am the mosquito and she used 'All-out'.

I mourned in the funeral of trust and love,

Washed my hands and wore the glove.

Wishing to not see anybody fake,

'Cos I am happy staying alone like the frog in the lake!

Live the romance

He called me early that day, in the morning

And in a feeble voice, started to sing.

I was doing my household chores, so was dressed shabbily...

But he kept admitting that he missed me terribly !

I said "Darling, I am always with you, though out of your sight."

And thought that the matter was light .

While we spoke, he said "Baby, don't you think we've lost the spark in our relationship?"

Continued saying "Now it's not the same how we began our friendship"

Our late night talks, the useless arguments, the long drives and those silly fights....

Oh then! I clearly understood his plight!

He fears losing me. And, I understood he had a bad dream!

He would never express it to me, but I had to make sure: we were a team!

I said "Darling, the rain yesterday's reminded me of our long drives..

And the other day when I was watching that romantic movie, I realised how happy we are to have each other in our lives!"

He exclaimed "Oh...the rain reminded.. I mean..you too?"

I then realised where the conversation was heading to!

"Everything reminds me of you. Work life balance is sometimes hectic but that doesn't mean I don't think about you!" I said .

"I thought something was wrong between us," he said, and that one tear shed!!

I could sense the fear,

And I never wanted to see that again, the tear!

What next happened, felt like a magical force,

In a few seconds, "Hey, will you marry me?" I proposed!

The emotional फूल

They said I was ostensibly a carefree person,

They said I had no emotions .

"Oh!" To which I then replied 

"Hey, that's because I had a magic potion!"

Back then, we were all very good friends,

But, I didn't realise the friendship would need so many mends !

A great listener, a good secret keeper, you know !

I didn't know I was one, but it did happen so ! 

Life gave me surprises, and eventually I went apart, bro

And obliviously, let the distance in our friendships grow .

I had no idea they misunderstood 'oblivious' with 'obvious' ..

And undoubtedly, the friendships broke into pieces !

Later when everything fell into place, 

I realised my mistake and embarked the chase .

I realised the blunder I made,

And I was genuinely sorry for my mistake .

But they said it was too late ,

"A second chance is impossible, mate!"

I tried, not once, not twice but many times,

But, when there was no progress, my mind struck the chime!

If they feel that I had been cruel, 

then I must say , that the fault was dual.

If I was going apart, why didn't they stop me?

All it would take was a piece of advice to me!

To try for it, was definitely a pleasure,

Cos amid that, I found a hidden treasure.

The treasure of thoughts that led to emotions,

And, even if I cannot go back, now my mind has the perfect notions!

The urge today

Read this request letter from an anonymous girl who was tested Covid positive.

Dear friends,

 May 12, 2020

The world is fighting a pandemic COVID-19.

I got tested positive for the same on this day. You can’t imagine the thoughts crossing my head. Every other person, no matter how strong they are would go through the same. No matter how optimistic you are, negativity starts dancing in circles.

Questions arise like: Am I even going to survive it? Is it going to affect my body in the long run? Am I even going to get up the next morning? 

Death is a thing that almost everyone fears. You have other thoughts running as well that once this hurdle is survived, are we going to be treated as untouchables from thereon? And so the list goes on and on. 

The point here is to understand that Covid-19 not only affects one’s physical health but also hampers their mental balance. It’s the friends and family who gotta support the ones diagnosed and treat them well. It surely is a hard hour, but with kindness, anything is possible.

I urge everyone on behalf of every person who has been diagnosed, if you come across anyone affected with Covid-19, please be kind and be a friend in need. If you see an ambulance pass by, give them the way if you are on the vehicle, and pray for the human in there. An act of kindness wouldn’t do you any harm!

Yours Sincerely,

A positive girl who is now tested negative

Hopeful Romantic

An amazing piece of write-up from Ronak Jain. Please read and comment your feedbacks for this versatile newbie!

We are almost dead, when we are heart broken. However, we are still keen for the flicker of hope and faith which not at any time make things tranquil but at the same time, try making it attainable.

By Ronak Jain

Loving anyone more than oneself can never be concluded. Love is like a friendship set for a heavenly path. Hopelessness is like a sword that just stabs, and makes the wound deeper each time it is touched. Making it unfeasible to be in your life was engineered by you.

I wish there was a concept of remodelling love in a person's heart. Finding the barriers amidst oneself and sidelining it against, is love. It is truly said that once love touches a soul, every soul becomes a poet.

‘Amore (Love) takes advantage when mizpah (Emotional bond) exists.’

My yearning for you is as perpetual as the sky is. I feel like the world depopulates in your absence. A broken heart is inevitable; you can only cross that bridge when you come to it, even if you wish otherwise. A broken heart can only live with hope. I undoubtedly realize that a broken heart can never be okay, but that ray of hope can be a silver lining to it!

Get a guide, glide out of suicide

In this scenario of unnecessary burden and hypertension, it is natural for any ordinary person to be frustrated. However, innumerable chores and loads of work has become a very huge part of our lives, and we are ought to be aware of this very fact and adapt to the situations of life, no matter what!

We don't remain kids, we gain, we lose, we learn, we succeed, we fail and in the process, we grow up, not only just physically, but emotionally as well. 

Ofcourse we understand that this is all a part of life, but are we able to accept it? Bravery lies in accepting the facts of your own life. Everyone tries to make their life better but only some reach their destination. Some take time, some do it really quick. Some go through many struggles, some lesser. But in the end, what matters is what do you do after reaching your destination, Isn't it?

Hearing about the suicide of one of our favourite actors was a shock to all of us. Nobody knows the reason behind this tragedy but if you check the history, there had been suicidal attempts by many other actors for various financial or personal reasons.

Given his last movie, it's tragic to have him end on this note! But, it's a lesson to be learnt by all of us.

Friends, we all have our own issues. Not everybody is able to tackle all of them. Some of us may have a few friends to share our problems with and who help in times of need. Some don't, and that is the point when we need to stay strong. It requires a lot of courage to face our own problems. It requires a lot of patience to listen to advises and ponder over them. But when you don't have all of those, just talk it out to somebody. Someone who would hear to your problems patiently and somebody who is just a listener, because sometimes we just need an ear to listen, not an advisor. 

Believe me, there will be that one person.

A person in the world who would hear you. If not anybody else, your parents. 

Also friends, try being a friend and staying one. Listen to your friend when he/she is sad. Support them. Make them laugh along.

Maybe you hurt somebody in the past, but it's never too late to be good to a long lost friend. It's always a happy decision. A positive one. 

Also, at this point in time, where we've just been exposed to such a news, we would tend to care about all our closed ones and contact them again. But, when all this settles down, would we still care?
Maybe! We don't know. We would jump into our own lives again and forget about them.
Uncountable posts on social media about 'Talking to a friend' is a nine day wonder probably just like any other problem that arises. So most importantly, remember that your friend may not have a problem today, but make sure you are there for him tomorrow and everyday! 
Somebody has so well quoted: "I would rather listen to your story than attend your funeral!"

Remember, find happiness in the little things you have and start spreading positive vibes because we never know what our neighbour is going through.